I really would like to know what to say. I find that now that I am venturing out into the real world I come across people who don't know what has happened in my life over the past two months. I suppose it is unrealistic to assume everyone in Upstate New York knows about Drew. Well...I was kind of hoping it worked like that. I find myself totally unprepared for these questions:
1. How many kids do you have?
*the obvious answer is two...but then I feel like I have to explain...but I don't so I then feel like a jerk!
2.How's your little boy doing?
3. Where is that beautiful baby boy of yours?
The absolute hardest question to answer is...How are you doing?
I don't ever know whether people ask just to be nice or if they really want to know how I am doing. The hardest part about this question is that I don't really even know how I am doing. When I sit down to figure it out, it usually doesn't look pretty.
So....How do I answer these questions. I suppose this a rhetorical question but it is what is on my mind today. I have come in contact with a few well intentioned individuals who have asked me about Drew. It is so hard to give them an answer. In those moments I want to turn around and run away. Do you think that would be rude??
I think the fact that you are still able to stand and function is incredible. Whatever you say or don't say or whether you run or don't run, there are thousands of people who commend the strength you and that sweet family show every day. And for goodness sake, don't worry about being rude. This may be the one time in your life you can act however you want to act and no one can feel justified judging you in any way <3
ReplyDeleteBritt- my sister in law lost her infant son. When people ask her she says, She has one daughter and a son who is an angel watching over them. That usually stops the questions, respectfully. I hope you and your family can find peace in your hearts some day. I think of you often. Love- Shon-del
ReplyDeleteI keep coming back and reading this. My short answer is, no it isn't rude to run away when someone asks. I might even say it's okay to kick them in the shins, although faking an important phone call may be a little more subtle. I've heard of families with special needs kids carrying around business cards that explain their situation. (Sorry my 10 y.o. bit your kid at the park, he has autism) Maybe that would give you a way to explain without having to rehash the story at a moments notice. <3
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