Drew's memorial services were absolutely beautiful. There were white floral arrangements primarily with lilies and orchids which brought a sweet smell to the chapel. Many friends and family members came to calling hours which was followed by the funeral service. I had some very difficult moments throughout the day. One that I can recall that was incredibly difficult was when my brother, my step-dad, my grandfather and my brother-in-law picked up Drew's casket and carried it slowly down the hall from the viewing into the chapel. I couldn't control my sobbing. My husband gave the most amazing elegy, describing perfectly our son and our life during his time with us. I'm not sure how he made it through the talk. Probably by not looking directly at me. He did once and almost lost his composure. His talk was simply amazing!
It truly makes me grateful in situations like these for family. Robert's family came across the country to support him. It was the first time in over ten years that all ten (yes I said 10!!) brothers and sisters were together in the same place. We were able to get a beautiful picture of all of them. It was so funny to watch as they lined up, oldest to youngest. Alexis had more attention than I think she could even handle!!
Now I sit at home in quiet. Alexis starts kindergarten tomorrow! Although I am so excited for her, I am dreading it. I have made a list of things to do while I am home by myself during the day. I just don't really know where to start. I think the first thing I am going to do is sit down and write everything down. I want Alexis to be able to really understand what happened...every painful detail. I have always believed that the more knowledge you have, the better.
Thanks again to everyone who was able to support our family through this difficult time...and who are continuing to do so.
You are an amazingly strong person, keep lots of things on your list to do. Remember time heals all things. Try to keep busy it will make things easier. Tell Rob and Alexis hi! love you all.
ReplyDeleteWow, my daughter was in Kindergarten when her brother died. She handled things so well but I do know that as they get older they continue to process what happened and it is so good that you will have it all written down.
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