Thanksgiving

We made it though another major holiday. The anticipation of the holiday was much more difficult that the actual day itself. We decided to have a turkey dinner as a family a few days before the holiday because Alexis and I drove to Pennsylvania to spend some time with my grandparents.  As you can see, we had the usual fixings, turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy, green bean casserole, etc. It was very yummy. Alexis also decided to dress up for the occasion. She was a pilgrim!!

 Robert and I wanted to make sure that as we celebrate the holidays this year, to slowly establish family traditions to remember Drew. We both felt that on Thanksgiving when we are especially grateful for all the blessings in our lives, that if Drew were to "peak" in on us, we would want him to know that we wish he was there with us...that we haven't forgotten him.We decided to do this by setting him a place at the table.

 We made it to Pennsylvania and had a nice visit with family. We ate Thanksgiving dinner at my Nana and Poppop's house. It was nice to be around family but Alexis and I both missed Robert (he stayed home because he had to work). I was so proud of Alexis. She volunteered to bless the food before our meal. She said a beautiful prayer in front of nine people!

 

 Here are my grandparents. They are both amazing people! I love them very much.

 After dinner we sat around and talked. Mark and I spent some time looking through Black Friday adds. We really didn't have any intention of going shopping until Mark found the ad for night vision goggles!

 It was a beautiful weekend in Pennsylvania. Saturday morning we went to a park near my grandparents house that I played at when I was little. Alexis had a great time. It was a great way to burn off some Thanksgiving calories!

We are home now and back to the regular routine. I learned a lot from going through this holiday. Being around family is important but it was hard to be away from our home. Alexis found it difficult to sort out her emotions, especially because she missed her daddy!

Appointment Date

I have a lot to share about what has been going on lately, but i couldn't wait to share this news. We have been waiting for weeks for an appointment with the genetics team to help us answer many of the questions we still have about Drew's disorder. We really are trying to figure out what gene causes the disorder to prevent future children in our family from having serious complications like Drew did. This knowledge will also help doctors and researchers know more about this incredibly rare disorder.
We have an appointment on November 30th, 2011 to discuss with the team our options to get more answers. Yes...I said options..plural. The genetic counselor was very positive about several different options including one very new way to test for genetic mutations. This was great news! I know it will be really hard to talk about everything that happened and relive it all but I think it is a big step in our grieving process...
I promise to post how the appointment goes and the information we get! Thanks to all my amazing friends and family we can actually pursue these options because the trust fund and your generous support. Thank you!!

My First

I wrote a memorial article about Drew and his disorder and submitted it to an organization that raises awareness about rare metabolic disorders. I was so excited to see it up on their website this morning! It will also be published in the next newsletter! You can see the article at http://www.oaanews.org/DrewParke.htm and if you want to sign up for the newsletter you can do that at the organizations website!

Halloween

I didn't think it would happen but going back to work has made it difficult to update my blog. I wanted to share my experience in going through the very first holiday without Drew. It has been especially hard for different reasons than most people who lose a loved one. During the holidays you create wonderful, fun and lasting memories of the people you love. I have read and heard people talk about how hard the holidays can be after the death of a loved one because you miss those memories or family traditions. For us, it is different, because we never got to experience the holidays with Drew. That makes me terribly sad. When he was born, Alexis started to plan out our Halloween costumes. She was so excited to finally have someone to dress up with. At our church, families always dress up their children in clever ways. One year a wonderful family dressed up as Dr. Seuss characters.

 Alexis finally had decided on dressing up as a princess (of course!) and Drew was going to dress up as a frog. Some of the other options were a monkey and a banana, a farmer and a pea...you can see why she chose the princess!! This past week has been tough because every time she put on her Halloween costume it reminded me that we were missing our frog. When we were trick or treating I even saw a little baby dressed as a frog and I just about lost it. I shoved a candy bar in my mouth and kept walking.

Now that Halloween is over and I realize how incredibly tough that holiday was I am nervous for Thanksgiving and Christmas (which do not usually end with large amounts of chocolate sitting on my kitchen table). I was so excited to share with him our family traditions. I would love to hear from readers what their family does during the holidays to remember someone they lost. I want to establish a new family tradition that helps us remember Drew during the holidays!